At a recent work event, I found myself speaking to someone I hadn’t met before. He worked in a different field to me, so initiating a conversation took some effort on both our parts. We ended up talking about gaming, he told me that it was something he and his wife used to do, but since becoming parents, collapsing on the sofa in front of the TV was usually the most they could manage. I confessed to being capable of very little after 9pm except pouring a gin and tonic. We didn’t dwell on our families, but suddenly the conversation became easier. We worked in different sectors, at opposite ends of the country, and had a different family set up, but we’d found some common ground.
As working parents, there were certain challenges we both faced. In the context of that conversation it was that feeling of sheer exhaustion at the end of the day, but a lack of flexible childcare provision, rising childcare costs, and simply fitting it all in are hurdles that many of us face. Figures from the
Office of National Statistics
show that at the end of 2016, 81.3% of people of working age with dependent children were employed. That’s a whacking great
11 million working parents in the UK
, making up over a third of the workforce. The number of households where both parents are working is rising, and the same is true of lone-parent households.
But despite the growing number of working parents, and the advances in technology that make mobile and flexible working possible, the system doesn’t seem to have caught up. It’s still considered the norm for a business to operate on a Monday to Friday, 9 to 5 basis, and one only needs to visit a Business District in a city after 7pm to find proof. Of course, there are some businesses that have embraced flexible working, and sites such as
www.workingmums.co.uk
encourage employers to commit to developing a family-friendly working culture, and more importantly, to shout about it. But even where flexibility does exist within an organisation, the chances of finding childcare provision that’s both flexible and affordable enough to work alongside it are slim.
More and more people are turning to self-employment to find the flexibility they need to juggle their families and work. The
level of self-employment in the UK
rose from 3.8 million in 2008 to 4.6 million in 2015, continuing a trend from the early 2000’s. Of course self-employment comes with its own set of challenges, but for many (myself included), these are outweighed by the flexibility to work when and where it suits them. Whatever your thoughts on the term ‘mumpreneur’, it originated to describe a phenomenon – more and more women were choosing to take the risk of setting up their own business rather than return to their jobs after having children, often because it just wasn’t practical or affordable to go back once childcare and the demands of a young family were taken into account.
I made the decision to go back to being self-employed when my daughter started school. I’d envisioned things getting easier at that stage, and when they didn’t, it was a wake-up call that I needed to make a change. One of the main reasons my business partner and I founded
tuki
, was because we wanted to create something that was flexible for everyone – our clients, our team, and ourselves. We knew there were a lot of really great people out there that just needed a different option. Our Virtual Assistants can work when it suits them, whether it’s 5am before the rest of the house wakes up, during school hours, or as I’m writing this, while the kids are in a gymnastics class. So long as the client gets the results for when they need it, everyone’s happy.
Whatever your working scenario, you’re not alone. There’s an abundance of articles out there with tips on how to survive, and how to achieve the holy grail of a work-life balance. You only need to type ‘working parents’ into Twitter or LinkedIn to find a swathe of people giving an honest account off the challenges they face. Somewhere along the way it became acceptable to share our failings as well as our successes.
So what’s my top tip for working parents? Find the funny side. This usually happens when I share the details of my breakfast-throwing-door-slamming-tantrum-filled pre-work morning with another working parent and remember that it’s not just me - there are 11 million other working parents out there facing the same challenges every day.